It is a bit tempting to let your kids behave badly or perform chores, sports practice or homework poorly whenever they argue and resist feedback. The parents have to be their teacher, coach, and counsellor so they learn to behave rightly, develop the healthy attitudes for learning & know to get best out of their behavior.
Make this specific
It is necessary to give right feedback about their behavior, skill and attitude, suppose you want any improvement. The feedback has to be very specific instead generalized so your child and teen knows how they can do better. It has to get delivered in the non-judgmental way.
Ensure the feedback is straight
Not all the feedback is made equal. For the feedback to stay constructive, it should be specific & user-friendly. It is quite common to give general or vague praise when you are trying to protect the child’s feelings. However, certain phrases like “Great job” or “You are really smart” are not much helpful at home.
Despite our best intentions, it appears out children do not like it. In a particular study, they cited general and unclear feedback as most frustrating features of the teacher input. Before you give your child any feedback, know this rule: if your words can be applied to other child’s performance, then they are too general. But, take a note of what had gone well, or how your kid’s efforts and performance have changed when you provided the last feedback. Give information your child will reflect on
Always use positive sentences
While surfing one of the site, I went through one application that asks children to guess number of small boxes that can fit in a big box. And the best thing about it was if the guess was wrong, it will not say wrong. Comment will be something like your estimate is high or low. You will see how nicely they are using these positive sentences and tell where it went wrong without even telling you’re wrong or answer is wrong.
Feedback is the best parenting tool that needs great attention to detail, willingness to respect your child dignity and sensitivity. It is highly effective when it is given sparingly, instead like the nervous tic that keeps your kids anchored for approval. So, these are some important parenting tips that you can apply knowing your child and how he takes your feedback.